Welcome to Mommahood 👑

So I was scrolling thru Facebook and I noticed that there are about to be a lot of new mommies out there. Young mommies like me who are about to embark on this new journey for the first time. So I figured this would be the perfect time to write a post just for them.

This Is For You New Mommas 💕

First things first, CONGRATS 🎉

You are about to become the most important person in a tiny person’s life, & go through the most magical life experience!

Being a mommy is great! You have a tiny person who loves you with their entire heart & soul free of any judgment. Someone who will love you unconditionally & will remind you every day that there is always a reason to smile 😊 They teach you more about yourself, then you ever could have learned on your own. You develop a new type of strength that is so different than anything you’ve felt before. The kind that makes Mommas flip cars, and go to the ends of the Earth for their babies.

Life changes. It has a
new meaning, a new purpose, and that purpose will push you towards all of the things you once deemed impossible or too hard. You will wake up each morning and thank God for giving you this gift at a time when you may have needed it most. It will be your greatest blessing. ✨

Now that you know how great it is, lets talk about the things that are not so great & what you will need to survive them including; sleep, patience, headphones & LOTS of Wine 🍷

Some of you probably noticed I didn’t say sleep, there’s a reason for that…

EVERY BABY IS DIFFERENT!

When you’re pregnant with your first child everyone loves to give their input. Especially other “established” mommas. And that is perfectly fine when it comes to things that generally help with all babies. Changing diapers, which bottles give less gas, and which sitters to choose.

However, when it comes to sleep patterns, crying, or feeding. Sometimes listening to the advice of moms before you just isn’t wise.

For example, its great that Suzie from down the street feels compelled to tell you how blessed she was that her first baby was such a “good sleeper”, and “barely ever cried”. Whats not okay is when that input becomes, “hopefully your baby is like that too”. 🚫🚫🚫

Having a baby is a BEAUTIFUL thing, and if someone is already putting negativity in your head about it – RUN! 🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️ Sometimes during pregnancy, it is best to steer clear of certain people. You don’t have to cut them out of your life completely, but you want your pregnancy to be a calm, exciting experience. Any negative nancys around you can make you stress, & any stress you feel, the baby will too!

No one can tell you what is the best way for you to do things for your child, except YOU! Yes, your new at this, but so were they once. You will figure it out, I promise! Ask for help when needed, but figure out the flow of what works best for you & your baby. Sample bottles, diapers, and food. If your baby doesn’t like something, they will have ZERO problems letting you know!

SLEEP WHEN YOUR BABY SLEEPS!

I remember being told this when I had my son and I thought to myself “thats crazy!” Why would someone choose to nap when there is so much else that needs to be done. I remember being on maternity leave and being so tired ALL THE TIME, but there was never time for sleep. When the baby was awake I was feeding him, changing him, cleaning him. By the time nap time rolled around I saw it as the perfect opportunity to do the things I couldn’t while he was awake like, take a shower, clean the house, do laundry. I did this for a little while, and in the end I turned myself into a Mombie!


(You can find this & really other cool caricatures designed by Jason Wilkins here at https://www.wilkinsartandcreative.com/store/p4/Mombie.html)

For those who don’t know the term, a Mombie is a mom who never stops. She is exhausted, a little insane, & probably sips coffee & wine like they’re water. She forgets a lot of things, which may sometimes include the names of her child(ren).

It got to the point where I could barely function anymore! So I took some of the advice I received (the good kind), and I took a nap when my baby napped.

It was MAGICAL ✨

For an entire day, I ignored all of my household duties and slept when my baby slept, and let me tell you this was advice I was glad I finally decided to follow! We were both a lot happier & it actually made it easier to find the time to do things in between his naps, and when he was calm.

Now, I didn’t sleep every time he napped, but if Momma was tired, Momma was napping 😂

Alright Mommas repeat after me,

WINE IS FINE! 🍷

Trust Me! You’re gonna need it! And if your not an alcohol drinker, Coffee will do, & if you’re not a coffee drinker well then I don’t know what to tell you and you should probably get a therapist. JK (not really)

If you’re breastfeeding, obviously don’t get wine crazy – (Unless you’re pumping & dumping 😉) But if you’re not then sit back, kick those tired feet up & enjoy a nice glass of the finest cheap moscato you can find! You deserve it Momma!

Along with the wine, & sleep, a lesson in patience will soon arise as your little one begins to test every bit of it you have.

Its hard being a mom, by far the hardest thing I have ever taken on. The constant worry if you’re doing it right, if you’re doing too much or if you are not doing enough.

PATIENCE is huge when is comes to being a mom & believe it or not, it is one of the hardest things to learn as a parent.

They are going to test you, like literally test your patience until you’re left staring at them confused, questioning your sanity. They’re going to hear you say no, think you didn’t mean it the first time & then ask you a thousand more times. They’re going to continue touching whatever you asked them not to, then proceed to use their food as art. As hard as it may seem to do, KEEP CALM & MOMMA ON! Remember that wine we talked about? This is the time to pull that bad boy out and take a nice sip. Then take a deep breath, remind yourself how much you love your child & handle it.

Not only do you have to learn how to be patient with your child, but you need to remember to be patient with yourself as well. You won’t always get it right, that’s just life. Sometimes you’re gonna mess up, especially as a new parent. You’ll give them too much candy, or let them go to bed a little too late. I promise it’s okay. As mommas we learn as our babies grow, and in return we grow as well.

But in order to learn and grow, we need to be patient with ourselves and understand that sometimes, things are gonna get hard. Really hard. And its in those difficult moments, sitting on the floor, tears running down our faces, so exhausted from life that we need to remind ourselves why we try so hard to begin with. That little face that looks at you like you are the most perfect person in the world. And as mommas we need to pick ourselves up and keep pushing. Because if we don’t fight to give our babies the best life possible, then who will?

Okay Mommas I think I have gone on long enough. Bottom line is this, yes momming is hard. But I swear it’s worth every tear, headache & stress pimple you’ll get. YOU were chosen to be a mom for a reason, and as soon as you look into your babies eyes for the first time, you’ll understand that reason perfectly.

Congrats again to you all & Welcome to Mommahood 💜

xoxo – Janii

To My Favorite Mommas ❤️

In honor of Mother’s Day, I wanted to  write a special post dedicated to the 4 most important Mommas in my life!

To my Grandmother..❤️

Abuela, to me, you were the definition of a SuperMom. You had 17 kids, and somehow made it thru without going nuts lol. You were so strong and so beautiful and I will never forget you. I can still see your smile when I would brush your hair, paint your nails, or do your makeup. I miss you so much.. all I can hope is that your up there looking down at me smiling again. I hope that your proud of me, and of the mom I became. I can’t wait til the day I get to see you again in that Heavenly place. Rest in the Sweetest Paradise Abuela Tere, I love you. Bendicion ❤️

 

To my Mother… ❤️

Mom, I know I haven’t been the easiest child to deal with. I know I haven’t been the best, but I want you to know I appreciate EVERYTHING you have ever done for me. I understand all of the worries you had, all of the stress. And I’m sorry for everything I put you through. I can only hope to someday be half of the Mother you are. You raised 4 kids all on your own & I will never know how you did it, .. but you did. You kept us fed, clothed & happy. And I thank you for that. You are the strongest woman I know, and I admire you so much. You have been thru  so much in your life & gotten thru it all. You don’t take shit from anyone & that is one of the things I love about you. I am who I am because of you, because of all of the lessons and love you instilled in me. You taught me to never give up, & it’s for that reason I am writing this blog today. Thank you for being you. Im gonna make you proud mom. I love you ❤️

To my Sister Jazmin ❤️

Aka My twin! Let me start this by saying I am so proud of the Mom you are! Your kids are so lucky to have you. Growing up, we didn’t always get along. In fact, I can remember a few different occasions of you punching me in the head.. lol Anywho, we became best friends, and you became someone I looked up to and admired. You were so pretty and so confident. I wanted to be just like you. And now all these years later, I’m happy to say that’s still true. You are the epitome of what a wife & mom should be. Thank you for being there whenever I need you and for always supporting my dreams, no matter how crazy. And thank you for always believing in me, especially when I don’t believe in myself. You always tell me exactly how it is, even if I don’t like it. And I love you for that too. So thank you for being you. I love you ❤️

To My Sister Jessica ❤️

When we were little, I kind of thought of you as my second mom. I was afraid to do certain things around you because I didn’t wanna get in trouble. And I didn’t want you to be mad at me. It’s still the same now.. Sometimes I get scared to talk to you because I’m afraid you’ll be disappointed in me. I don’t think you ever knew this, but your opinion has always been one of the ones that mattered most. And every time I knew I disappointed you really hurt me. That’s why the day I told you I was pregnant with Jaziah I brought someone with me. I was scared lol. Your my big sister & all I ever wanted was to make you proud. Im sorry we’re not as close as I wish we were and I hope in time that changes. But let me take this time to tell you how proud I am of you. Since the day Lani was born you haven’t been anything less than amazing! You raised her on your own & made it look so easy. I was having a hard time getting the hang of being a young mom & watching you with her pushed me to be better for Ziah. Thank for all of the tough love nobody else would give, thank you for never turning your back on me as much as you may have wanted to. And thank you for teaching your little sister how to be a better mom & woman! You have no idea how much I admire you. Your strength, your perseverance, you are a phenomenal person & I thank you for being my big sister! I love you ❤️

 

Xoxo-Jani ❤️